In my college years, friendship was not a high priority on my list with my job, exams, having kids early and being married. However as I’ve grown older, I’ve come to learn that friendship is a form of art that should be cherished.
I’m not saying to run out and go make all the friends you possibly can. Friendship is something that should be highly valued because not every person is meant to be your friend.
People come into your life for different reasons. Some people come to teach you lessons about life, some people come to help you grow and evolve as a person, some people come to simply use you for all you can give and some people are there to stay.
How do I find the friends to stay you ask? What about my 500 friends on Facebook or my 1000 Instagram followers, does that count? Well first, in friendship, it’s not about quantity but the quality of a friend.
- Can you count on your friend to be there emotionally and physically when you need them?
- Are you willing to do the same for this friend?
- Is it easy to communicate with your friend and are you willing to work things out through the good and bad?
In case you didn’t realize, a friendship takes work. It is a relationship between two people who are willing to invest time and support among other things. We’re still talking about friendship here.
The best thing I’ve done this year is to invest in myself, meeting new people and forming new friendships. Everyone is not your friend but once you weed out people with negative energy, you’re on a path to finding a true friend. If you need a refresher on positive energy, read my post “Put it in the Universe.”
Do I need friends?
Technically no, if you believe in the theory of “Born alone and die alone.” However, people are also born to interact with one another.
I’ve been an introvert most my life so I definitely appreciate my own space. However, meeting new people through my meetup group, Baddish and Brainy Ladies has also been socially rewarding and a great start to making new memories.